Letting go isn’t something you do once, instantly feeling lighter and free. Instead, letting go is a process—a gentle unfolding, a series of moments where we slowly release our grip on what once meant everything to us.

When a relationship ends, especially one that deeply touched our heart and soul, the decision to move on doesn’t erase the love, memories, or emotional attachments overnight. We can logically understand why it wasn’t right, reminding ourselves of unmet needs, emotional unavailability, dishonesty, or incompatibility. Yet, our hearts often linger behind, still holding attachments and memories.

As I actively move into a new life chapter—selling belongings, renting out my homes, and preparing for an adventure across Latin America—an interaction with my former partner recently stirred deep sadness and insecurity. Simply imagining him dating someone new brought tears, anxiety, and a longing I thought I’d overcome.

In those moments, it’s easy to feel frustrated, wondering, “Why do I still care? Why haven’t I let go completely?” But here’s the truth I’ve learned: letting go doesn’t happen overnight. It’s gradual. It comes in waves. Some days you feel strong, clear, and empowered; others, you feel vulnerable, emotional, and unsure. And that’s okay.

Each wave of sadness or longing doesn’t mean you’re failing or moving backward—it actually signals healing. Every time we face those emotions, allowing ourselves to truly feel them without judgment, we inch closer to genuine freedom and emotional clarity.

I’ve learned to embrace these uncomfortable moments as essential to my growth. They remind me why I’ve chosen this path, reinforcing that I’m seeking something healthier and deeper—honest love, emotional availability, and authentic connection.

If you’re on this journey too, know you don’t have to let go all at once. It’s okay to grieve, to feel, and to still care, even when you’re sure you’re on the right path. Allow yourself compassion and patience.

Letting go isn’t a single decision. It’s a brave, ongoing act of self-love and self-respect.