Life is a series of patterns—predictable loops shaped by our past experiences, behaviors, and choices. Unless something disrupts the cycle, we continue along a familiar path, repeating the same mistakes, dating the same type of people, and wondering why nothing ever truly changes.  

This was the trajectory I was on.  

Had I stayed in Georgia, I would have inevitably ended up back on dating apps, meeting another Mark or Chris—different faces, same story. I would have been drawn into another emotionally unavailable relationship, filled with the same patterns of chasing, hoping, and feeling unseen. The cycle would have continued because I hadn’t truly broken away from it.  

But sometimes, to change your life, you have to do something radical. You have to walk away from everything familiar and rewrite your story. That’s what my decision to leave for Latin America represents: not just a physical move, but a deliberate, conscious choice to change my trajectory.  

The Path I Was On: The Trap of Repeating Patterns  

If you look at anyone’s life, you can usually predict where they’re going based on their current trajectory. It’s not about fate or bad luck—it’s about cause and effect.  

– I was on the path of staying in Georgia, trying to move on but repeating the same cycles.  

– I was dating men like Mark and Chris—different personalities, same patterns.  

– I was unconsciously making choices that kept me in the same emotional loops.  

When I met Chris, I thought he was different, but soon I realized he was just another version of the same story. He wasn’t emotionally ready. He wasn’t fully present. He was someone I was trying to make fit, rather than someone who fit naturally. And that’s when I saw the pattern.

Had I stayed, I would have continued to attract emotionally unavailable men because I hadn’t removed myself from the system that kept me in that loop.  

Why Latin America Was the Necessary Disruption 

To break a pattern, you have to change the inputs.  

Moving to Latin America isn’t just a geographical shift—it’s an identity shift. It’s stepping outside of the environment that enabled my patterns and forcing myself into a new reality. Here’s why this move matters:  

1. It Forces Me to Focus on Myself  

Instead of falling into another dating cycle, I’m putting my energy into my children, my journey, my blog, and my dreams. There’s no room for another Mark or Chris because I’m writing an entirely new story.  

2. It Removes Me From Old Triggers

Staying in Georgia meant being surrounded by memories, familiar places, and old habits that made it easy to slip back into old ways of thinking. By leaving, I am creating distance from my past.  

3. It Opens Me to New Possibilities  

In a new place, I’m no longer constrained by the roles and routines that kept me stuck. I have the chance to redefine what I want, how I live, and who I become.  

4. It’s a Bold Act of Self-Liberation  

Most people stay stuck because leaving is scary. It’s hard to walk away from comfort, even when it’s unhealthy. But I am choosing to step into the unknown because I refuse to let my future be dictated by my past.  

How This Breaks the Cycle for Good 

A true trajectory change isn’t about making small adjustments. It’s about dismantling the entire framework that kept you stuck in the first place.  

This move forces me to:  

• Build my life around my dreams, not a relationship. 

• Experience new cultures, new perspectives, and new ways of thinking.  

• Create an identity that isn’t defined by past heartbreaks.  

• Surround myself with different energy, people, and opportunities. 

The old version of me would have stayed in Georgia, continued dating the same kind of men, and wondered why love never worked out. The new version of me is choosing adventure, freedom, and the unknown—because that’s where real transformation happens.  

Final Thoughts: If You Want a Different Life, You Have to Make Different Choices 

If you’re reading this and feel like you’re stuck in your own repetitive cycle, ask yourself:  

• Where is my current trajectory leading me?  

• Am I unconsciously repeating the same mistakes?  

• What bold decision do I need to make to truly change my life?  

Changing your trajectory isn’t easy. It’s uncomfortable. It requires risk. But the alternative is staying trapped in a loop that never changes.  

I made my choice. I chose to leave the cycle behind and create something new.  

And if you’re stuck, maybe it’s time for you to do the same.