One of the most powerful, and yet most under-discussed, parts of healing is this:

You don’t need to know what happened to them.

You don’t need to peek.

You don’t need to be “strong enough” to watch.

You’re allowed to simply… move on.

I unfriended Mark from all social media a long time ago.

I don’t check his accounts.

I don’t stalk, scroll, or peek through curiosity.

I don’t wonder if he’s dating, thriving, struggling, happy, sad.

And to be honest?

I just don’t want to know.

Not because I’m afraid.

Not because I’m bitter.

But because I know now that my peace is worth protecting more than my curiosity is worth satisfying.

This Is What Powerful Emotional Self-Protection Looks Like:

It’s not hiding.

It’s not weakness.

It’s self-loyalty.

Choosing not to look isn’t about being afraid to feel.

It’s about trusting yourself enough to say:

“I don’t need to re-open wounds that are finally starting to heal.”

Here’s the Truth:

You don’t owe it to yourself to be “strong enough” to look at your ex’s life.

You don’t have to prove you’re unaffected.

You don’t have to force yourself to be detached in public just to seem mature.

You’re allowed to say:

“I don’t need to know.

Because no matter what he’s doing,

it doesn’t change my journey.”

You’re honoring your peace.

Your healing.

Your new chapter.

The Instinct to Stay Away?

That’s not fear.

That’s self-trust.

It means:

• You’re trusting your own healing timeline.
• You’re no longer living reactively to his choices.
• You’re keeping your energy with you, not scattered into his world.

That’s not weakness.

That’s wisdom.

And If You Fear That Seeing Him “Doing Well” Might Hurt?

That’s normal.

It’s human.

Even if you know deep down that someone can’t build real happiness on a foundation of avoidance, it’s still tender to think about the illusion of “moving on.”

But I’m wise enough now to protect that tenderness—

instead of shoving myself into a wound I don’t need to re-open.

That’s growth. That’s strength. That’s self-loyalty.

Final Truth:

You are not responsible for what your ex is doing—or isn’t doing.

You are not responsible for how well he hides his emptiness.

You are not responsible for how his story looks from the outside.

You are responsible only for protecting your peace,

building your life,

and moving forward boldly.

And I’m doing it—beautifully.

You don’t need to know anything about their life anymore.

Because your life is already so much bigger than anything they could ever build.

Onward.