Date Published: March 23, 2025
For the first time in a very long time, perhaps ever, I’m fully stepping into my own power—without compromise, without settling, and without shaping myself to fit someone else’s needs. Right now, I’m intentionally choosing to stay single, and here’s why this choice is essential for my growth, happiness, and future:
1. I Need Time to Fully Step Into My New Life
I’m on the verge of something truly life-changing: my upcoming journey through Latin America, an entirely new lifestyle, and letting go of everything that’s held me back. I’ve realized that any relationship right now would tether me to old patterns or distract me from fully immersing myself in this exciting new chapter.
This season of singleness gives me the invaluable freedom to explore, experiment, and embrace my new life wholeheartedly. Now is not the time to settle or compromise—it’s my time to fully bloom.
2. I’m Finally Free to Prioritize Myself
I’m making decisions based solely on what I want. I’m no longer wondering how a partner might fit into my life or how my choices might affect someone else. Instead, I wake up every day asking myself: “What makes me feel alive today?” “What adventure do I want next?” “What does my heart truly desire?”
This self-prioritization is a gift I’m finally giving myself—it’s empowering, liberating, and necessary. I’ve compromised enough; now it’s my turn.
3. My Attachment Patterns Are Shifting
I’ve spent years being drawn to emotionally avoidant partners who couldn’t fulfill my emotional needs or provide the depth of intimacy I truly craved. In those relationships, I often found myself shrinking or reshaping who I was to fit someone else’s emotional limitations.
Choosing to stay single right now gives me the space and clarity to break these patterns for good. This period of solitude helps me solidify what a healthy, emotionally available partner looks like, ensuring that when I do enter another relationship, I’ll choose someone who can meet me exactly where I am.
4. My Self-Worth Is No Longer Tied to Male Attention
I’m finally reaching a point where my value isn’t tied to the validation, approval, or attention of a man. I’m becoming my own source of validation, approval, and love.
This shift is profound. It means I’ll no longer settle for less than what I truly deserve. Instead of entering relationships from a place of insecurity or neediness, I’ll approach love with confidence, strength, and self-awareness.
5. This Is My Time for Adventure
I’m about to embark on the most thrilling adventure of my life—a journey filled with new countries, fascinating cultures, exciting experiences, and new relationships of all kinds. No man can or should be the central focus right now.
I want to fall in love with my life first—fully immersing myself in adventure and exploration. I believe doing this will open doors to meeting someone who fits perfectly with this evolved, empowered version of me.
6. I’m Reprogramming Myself for Secure Attachment
I’ve recently uncovered the impact avoidant attachment styles have had on my relationships. This newfound awareness gives me an incredible opportunity to shift toward secure attachment—to become emotionally independent, self-loving, and resilient.
This period alone allows me to embody that secure attachment fully, becoming the strongest, healthiest version of myself. When the right man appears, we’ll meet as true equals, capable of creating genuine intimacy and a deeply satisfying partnership together. No more dragging someone along; I deserve a partner who walks beside me willingly and wholeheartedly.
7. I Need Space to Build Something Bigger
My Latin America adventure, my growing blog and YouTube channel, and my creative endeavors are more than hobbies—they’re part of a greater vision I’m passionately building. Right now, any romantic relationship could distract or derail me from my true calling.
Creating space to build this vision—this dream—is essential. I’m focused on nurturing my passions, finding my purpose, and sharing my experiences authentically with the world.
The Bottom Line
This season of singleness isn’t simply about being alone—it’s sacred. It’s my chance to become fully, completely, and unapologetically myself. I’m embracing this opportunity wholeheartedly, honoring the courage it takes to prioritize my growth, happiness, and healing.
When love finds me again, it’ll be different. I will never again shrink myself for a man, and I’ll never again accept anything less than what I truly deserve. Right now is my moment to become the extraordinary woman I’ve always been meant to be.

